To me, this discussion isn’t much different than critiquing someone on their skydiving, bungee jumping, surfing, cycling, etc. hobby. The people that do it are well aware of any risks…including those beyond their control. Just as has been mentioned before, there are definitely ways to SIGNIFICANTLY reduce the risk of being hurt.
For our motorcycle example, properly trained, responsible riders are at much less risk than those who are self-taught, in over their head, or reckless. Some of the “unavoidable” incidents that I’ve seen mentioned are not necessarily unavoidable to those that have been properly trained. Part of being a good rider is trying to never even put yourself in a position where something could go wrong. No, this does not mean you are invincible or can control your surroundings…but I do feel that a responsible rider is 100x more aware of their surroundings than the standard car driver, simply because they have to be. The stop sign example posted above could possibly be avoided by a good rider…Why? Because he would instinctively be scanning the road multiple times before proceeding. If he was in a position where he couldn’t clearly see if something was coming, he would either put himself in a position to see better or slow down dramatically.
The same scenario goes for getting cut-off in an “unavoidable” accident on the highway. No, you can’t keep an eye on everyone all the time…but part of being a good rider is never putting yourself in a position to get cut-off. I’m sure that some of you with smaller cars do the same thing. When I’m on the highway in my Miata, I make it a point to always stay visible. It even comes down to a point where you need to accurately predict what other people are going to do. It works. It’s not perfect by any means, but it will still keep you as safe on a motorcycle as you can possibly be.
I don’t care much for statistics, as it does not take everything into account. Would you say that a professional race car driver is just likely to get in an accident as a 16 year old? Would an experienced, responsible rider be just as likely to get in an accident as a reckless new rider on a liter supersport bike? I’m also not sure where folks are getting these “90% of people in a motorcycle wreck die” or “even 15mph will mess you up”. That just reinforces how misinformed some folks really are.
For some reason the anti-bike guys seem to want the motorcyclists to acknowledge that an accident on a motorcycle would be far worse than the same accident in a car. I don’t think there is a problem there. All of the riders will tell you that if they happened to get hit BY a car at 70mph vs. getting hit IN a car at 70mph, they would be much worse off. The problem is in HOW it’s being approached - by assuming that it’s so easy to get in an accident on a motorcycle. The standard driver is far more likely to be involved in a high-speed accident than an experienced motorcyclist. Plain and simple.
Would you be upset if your friend with 3 kids was a skydiver? bungee jumper? surfer? bicyclist? runner? The result would be the same whether the skydiver’s chute didn’t deploy or the runner got hit by a car while crossing the street in their neighborhood - since everyone seems to want to look at the extremes. There will always be uncontrollable factors with each and everything that you do. Some folks enjoy taking risks to live their lifestyle. If that is their (and their family’s) personal decision, it shouldn’t be criticized.